So the last few SECOND dates I’ve been on, the guys either tried kissing me, or forcefully hugged me in a intimate way. Let’s just say that I am feeling some type of way about this…and it’s not good.
Now, before I sound crazy, I need to explain why I’m so annoyed at this.
#1.) I’m old school. Like major old school. Which means I believe a guy should either ASK for a kiss, OR WAIT a while until he knows for sure that she will be okay (or hopefully excited) about it. This goes for the forehead kisses and cheek kisses too. It shows a sign of respect and also proves that the guy isn’t so quick to kiss just anyone either (some of us girls think about these things you know). I also don’t like any sort of intimate touching right away either. I just feel like two people just be as pure as possible on the first date. I know, I know, old school. & what’s up with guys not kissing our hands anymore?! That is such a gentleman thing to do…when the timing is appropriate of course 😉 I think that’s the perfect FIRST type of kiss in my opinion.
#2.) I personally think kisses are so intimate. I don’t take them lightly (anymore), and it takes a lot for me to kiss someone. So just because I go on a date with a nice guy doesn’t mean I’ll let him kiss me just to be nice. I will 100% reject it and it will be 100% awkward, ugh.
#3.) I have one husband out there and I am trying my hardest to reserve as much of me as I can for him. This is something I talk to God about a lot and lately He has been giving me the strength to wait. So if I accepted kisses from every date I went on, I’d be kissing more frogs than necessary. No thanks. I’m a very affectionate person and I wouldn’t want to get carried away kissing someone I’m not going to marry.
I dodged a few kisses this year (one specifically last weekend!) and it was so awkward. All three guys were kind of irritated (what?!) but then they “understood” why, after I explained my reasoning. Or so they said they did. They probably all think I’m a prude but whatevs. If I am, so be it. I’ve come a long way and I’d rather be hard to kiss over being easy.
I’m SO over dating right now. In fact, I feel like going extreme and not going on an official date again until after I’ve been around a guy for a little while. For instance, I would like to do group things with someone or perhaps meet someone at church and get to know each other at a fellowship event. That would be so ideal. I am so over trying to figure out if I like someone on a date. It kills the fun and exciting part of dating. I want to know I like someone before I agree to go on a date. I also want to make sure he has those 3 key qualities that I blogged about recently. The guys I recently went out with had 2/3 of the qualities, which explains why they were all so forceful with the touchy stuff. I should’ve stuck to my guns and said no when I was asked out. I know I’m making it even harder on myself to find my husband by doing this but my faith is strong. God will bring us together how He wants to and when He wants to.
The bar is getting higher and higher…which is great because I’m weeding out a lot of the wrong ones and getting closer to the right one. I still have no desire to download the dating apps again, and I am gaining so much peace each day that passes by about being single. I’m truly not ready to settle down, I have some exciting things I want to work on first.
I’m totally content in this season. I have my ups and downs but right now I’m in the ups ☺️
Onward & upward,